"The door to happiness opens inward opens outward toward others." Kierkegaard. (Happiness is not in taking from others to us, but in giving to others).
Most people look for in others what they themselves have not or can not, and therefore neither can give. (You can not give what one does not have). In so many couples is that "opposites attract", they say that balancing the relationship. What you can not, for example strength, what will the other. The same happens with the negative, when a person is too explosive, usually the other side of your partner is usually passive. This will call myself taking another.
But that balance is felt in the beginning of a relationship. The reality is that two people should be supplemented together. The two must likewise give and take equally, but in the future for either come the resentments and frustrated expectations. "Nobody has what does not." Because when a person turns on receiving your partner something that has, for example, energy or vitality, her partner eventually expected back energy and vitality, and if you do not receive anything in return, the couple will share their own vitality , leaving the relationship or desenergetizada blocked, and the person does not have what you gave.
How should happen this exchange of giving and receiving? Thinking about giving what you have to offer, so that receiving happen automatically. If the two sides of the couple focus on only doing their best for the other, to love, to give happiness, to the stability ......... Across the couple try to reciprocate this "give, without thinking about what accomplished receive in return", and together formed the giving and receiving balanced on both sides. In the examples given above, an explosive person must learn to control himself, to give positive force, rather than passively wait for your partner is the street that its explosion, softening situations. A weak person should learn to draw and develop their strengths, daring to act, rather than seek and rely on a strong and aggressive partner to solve things always, and in the future could overshadow her fragile personality.
very sincere Another truth is that "nobody gives what no. If a person seeks stability in another person because she does not have stability in your life ........... over time, you can not bring stability back to your partner, because no can give what one does not have. Here as smooth would be to find and achieve stability first, and then seek a partner with whom to share it. "Nobody can give what he has" refers to dedicate yourself first, in order to produce the we want to give of ourselves to others, "the best".
If people learn to love themselves first, that love can share and lead the outside. When a person is not love itself, has no love and if not love, can not find someone to love, because love has to give. And if you find that another's love and fill the vacuum, fall into the disappointment of not being able to receive from the other. To give something to others, first you must learn to have it your own, then share it. When you learn to share, to receive is automatic.
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