When I learn enough about relationships like mine to be on wheels?
Is there any way to be happy in relationships?
Do
should always assume a test?
You have nothing to learn about relationships. You only have to declare what you know.
there a way to be happy in relationships and is in use, to the end that is theirs, and not the one you have appointed them.
Relationships are constantly testing, constantly invite you to create, express and experience the most tested aspects of yourself, the greatest visions of yourself, the more magnificent versions of yourself.
Nowhere else can do this in a more immediate, effective and immaculate in relationships. In fact, if not for the relationship could not be made at all.
Only through your relationships with other people, places and events can be (as a knowable quantity, as something identifiable) in the universe. Remember
in the absence of something else, you are not. You only what you are, in relation to something else is not. So in the world of the relative, unlike the world of the absolute, in which I dwell.
relations are used to build who you really are.
When human love relationships fail (in fact relationships fail not, except in the strictly human sense that not produce the result you want) is because they had started from a wrong reason.
Most people begin their relationships with their sights set on what can be drawn from them, rather than what they can bring to them. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of you would like to see discovered, not that of the other person can capture and preserve.
can only be one purpose for relationships, and life, being and decide who you really are.
is very romantic to say that you were not anything until I get that other special someone, but not true. And what is worse, is an incredible pressure on that person, forcing him to be a whole series of things that are not.
Unwilling desengañarte with great effort is being and doing those things, until they can no more. And can not complete the picture that you have forged him or her. Can no longer play the role assigned. Surge resentment and then anger.
Finally, to save themselves (and relationship) that special someone begins to regain his authentic self, acting more in line with who he really is. And that's when you say that has really changed.
is very romantic to say that now that special someone has entered your life, you feel full. But the purpose of the relationship is not to have another person to complete you, but having another person with whom you share your completeness.
Here is the paradox of all human relationships: you do not need a particular person to experience fully who you are, and no other, ye are nothing.
The problem is very basic, your most wonderful dream, your highest idea, and your most cherished hope had referred to your loved one. Instead of your beloved self. Proof of your relationship had been referred to the fact how far the other line with your ideas, and did they consider to have you adjusted to theirs. However, the only authentic evidence related to the fact of how far you you adjusted yours.
If you let in a relationship with another person, each worry about himself, of what one is, do and have, of what one wants, gets calls from what one seeks , create, experiment ... ... ... .... all relationships serve this purpose beautifully, and those involved in them.
Let
in connection with another person, each worry, not the other, but only and only for himself.
seems a strange teaching, as I have said that in the highest form of relationship is only concerned with one another. But I tell you this: is the fact focus on the other, to be obsessed with the other, which makes relationships fail.
The teacher understands that no matter what the other is, do, be, say, want or have. No matter what the other thinks, wait or plan. It only matters what you do in this regard.
The person he loves most is the person who is more focused on himself.
If you do not love yourself, how you can love another. Many people make the mistake of trying to love himself through love another.
Two people come together to share their lives, hoping that everything will be more than the sum of its parts, and find that and less. They are less than when they were alone. Less capable, less skilled, less exciting, less attractive, less happy, less happy ... ... ... ..
This is so because they are less. Have given up most of what they are to have and maintain the relationship.
relations have never had it be so, but that is how most experienced people you know.
Finally the person who was doing the right thing for each other, then forgive, show compassion, to continually turn a blind eye to certain problems and behaviors a person became resentful, angry and suspicious, even before God, For how can a just God demand that suffering, the sadness and the endless slaughter, even in the name of love?
The answer is that God does not ask that. God asks only that it includes you among those whom you love, but not only that God proposes and recommends that you include the first.
Taken from the book:
Conversations with God